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Never Let Them See You Sweat

It’s a nightmare to be humiliated and harassed every day and feel that you can’t do anything about it.  Bullies often threaten by saying that if you ever tell anyone or do anything they will make it tougher on you.

Be sure to tell an adult.  Don’t keep it a secret.  Bullies count on that.  Silence is not golden in this case.

It’s important to remember that you haven’t done anything wrong and nobody has the right to make your life unhappy.  Don’t let them!

Body language speaks volumes.  Stand tall and straight, look the bully in the eye, say “NO,” and walk away.  Or, you may want to say, “That’s your opinion,” and walk away.  Don’t look scared.

Don’t get angry in front of the bully.  Bullies get off on anger.

Act as if what the bully is saying doesn’t matter to you at the moment and that s/he hasn’t upset you.  Then tell an adult immediately.

If the adult you tell doesn’t help, look for another one right away and tell them.   

If you’re being surrounded, try to get away and alert an adult or the nearest person.  If you can’t get away, yell at the top of your lungs to attract attention.

If you feel you’re about to be bullied, walk towards a crowd of people or another person.

Try to look as if you’re with others around the school, in public places and walking to and from school.

Bullies:  Stay Cool!

“You little creep.  I’m gonna show you what this school is all about.  Let’s call it an introduction.”  “Yah,” laughs big Bobby Tompkins as he joins Chris Bowers and starts inching towards little Jimmy O’Reilly.

Just hold it right there.  So you had a tough morning.  You couldn’t find your baseball mitt.  It happens.  Was that Jimmy O’Reilly’s fault?

There are times when your family, friends or events make you feel disappointed or unloved.  

It’s important to know that it’s okay to feel angry, but it’s never okay to use violence when you’re angry.

How can you keep your cool when you’re furious and hot under the collar?

  1. Take some deep breaths.
  2. Think about something else that makes you feel calm and that you enjoy doing.
  3. Talk to a friend or family member that you trust and try to find the words that describe how you feel.  Listen and stay open to what they say.
  4. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and try to see their point of view.  Ask yourself: “ Is my response rational?”
  5. Examine your options and find solutions.
  6. Ask yourself:  “Is this the only response that’s open to me?
  7. Tell yourself, “I’m not going to let them get the best of me.”
  8. Speak to a professional about managing your anger.

Getting a Grip on Your Self-Esteem – How do You Rate?

Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself.  Check the following points to see how your self-image rates.

1. I’m not influenced by what others say or do.
2. I’m able to say “no” and stand my ground.
3. I don’t always think I’m right.
4. I don’t always need approval from others.
5. I know how to take responsibility.
6. I don’t rely on others to make my life better.
7. I know how to be a friend to others.
8. I’m too unforgiving and judgmental with myself.
9. I feel confident to raise my hand in class.
10. I know the only question that isn’t smart, is the one that was never asked.

Listen Up!

Life can feel more challenging at certain times and reminding ourselves of all the things we’re good at and all the people who think we’re special are great ways to take care of ourselves.  Another good way to take care of yourself is to forgive yourself for the time you missed that goal or didn’t get the mark you thought you deserved and know that you will get another chance.   Use positive self-talk.  Keep telling yourself that you can do it.  Also, talking to someone who loves and supports you helps.